Just found out a good article on ETS book in the writing section. It exactly represents my thoughts and opinion about honesty and relationship.
When someone ask you “What do you consider to be the most important thing in your relationship?”. I would say honesty, or in other words, always telling the truth is the most important consideration in a relationship. Opposite of this is inarguably lying and if someone needs to lie, either he/she is hiding something or is afraid of telling me something.
In any relationship of mine, i would wish that the person i’m dealing with is honest. Eventhough she did something wrong that i wouldn’t like, she’d better tell me the truth and not lie about it. Later on if I find out about a lie or hear the truth from someone else, that’d be more unpleasant. In that case, how can i ever believe or trust her again? How can i ever believe that she has enough confidence in me to forgive her and carry on the relationship from there. So, if i cannot trust her anymore, if she doesn’t think that i can handle the truth, there’s no point to continue the relationship.